A friend popped round the other day. Unexpectedly because I’d mucked around with our meeting, cancelling one minute then realising I was free to meet. The reason I mention this is because I was straight off the school run, wearing yesterday’s clothes, no make up and was generally feeling a mess but hey, I had coffee so we were good.
As we were chatting he interrupted and said ‘I just want to say, you look really lovely with no make up’. My immediate reaction was to bat away the compliment, to point out I was in yesterday’s clothes, I had a new spot on my cheek and was generally a hot mess. Then I stopped myself and realised that just because I thought of myself that way, didn’t mean that other people do. I shut up, accepted the compliment and it gave me the confidence to crack on with work and not bother to waste time with make up and choosing new clothes. Instead I used the extra time to pop in and see a friend and I wasn’t at all conscious of looking a mess all day.
While I’m not going to make a habit of no make up and yesterdays clothes, I am going to be more conscious of accepting compliments and not being too hard on myself. I’ve always been uncomfortable with the way I look and have gone on to make a concerted effort with how I look and hearing that people value me for me whether it’s fully made up or not, is the best confidence boost of all.