Sometimes the people who we presume have a lot of confidence feel the opposite. What we show the outside world isn’t an accurate portrayal of what’s going on, on the inside. I’ve had many times in my life where I’ve suffered massively with confidence issues and can still be caught unawares at times. Anything can be the cause of it; being unprepared for something work related, meeting someone I consider to be much more successful than me and the popular one for many, being put on the spot.
There have been a few incidences in the past few weeks which have really made a difference to my confidence. One was going to the networking event last month where I had no idea that I was going to have to stand up and do a 1 minute pitch about This Demanding Life. I felt woefully unprepared and worried that I hadn’t done my work justice. Afterwards someone on my table gave me a note saying I came across as confident and she’d feel confident working with me.
Over the last few months I’ve been pitching for a website which I wanted more than any other website I’ve ever worked on. Everything about this company appealed to me; the social enterprise side of it, investment in peoples’ futures and the people who founded and head up the company are awesome. It took a lot of months of phone calls, Skype calls and emails to get the website and one of the first things they said to me when we agreed it was ‘we feel confident working with you’.
This week I’ve spent a lot of time with someone on LinkedIn who is (or should be) a guru of LinkedIn and all things marketing. He’s been in the game a lot longer than I have, is well respected and has a strong, engaged following. He asked my advice on something and I sent a long, rambling reply with an apology for the rambling. He’s since said that my advice was valuable, he’s followed it and he’s really grateful I took the time to send it.
While I know confident experiences wear off and there will still be times I feel incredibly nervous pitching for work, asking people for interviews etc. I’m hoping these 3 confidence boosts in quick succession will last long enough for me to gain confidence consistently.