Over the last week my timeline on every form of Social Media has been full of people comparing their lives at the beginning and end of the decade. I didn’t join in for various reasons:
- I didn’t know how to put comparison photos side by side in a single post (my sidekick, Amy has since told me it’s an App. Needless to say, an App I don’t have).
- I wasn’t sure people would be interested in my beginning and end of decade story.
As someone who was super involved in what we’d be doing to see in the new millennium* – in fairness I was 19 at the time, I struggled to get excited at a mere change of decade. After all, I have now seen 4 changes of decade and am under 40.
It has made me think about and look back on all that’s gone on in the past 10 years and it’s safe to say a lot has happened.
- I got married and divorced (not at the same time).
- I’ve had 3 children.
- I gained a step-daughter whom I love more than I thought possible
- I’ve been to Jersey! This is a big one as when I got together with my partner, who is from Jersey, it transpired that every member of my huge family, other than me and my children, has been there.
- I’ve worked as a complementary therapist, a communications & marketing specialist and a website designer.
- I started my own company.
- I’ve amassed a menagerie of pets and said goodbye to other pets.
- I made some awesome friendships.
- I sold my motorbike and convertible and bought a sensible car.
- I helped set up and now co-run a Child Contact Centre.
When I look at the list it makes me realise why everyone is celebrating their own lists. After all, a decade is a long time and in some ways I’m unrecognisable from the person I was 10 years ago. Ok I have finally accepted (3 children later) that I’ll never have the figure I had in my 20s again but you know what? I wouldn’t change that as I’ve enjoyed my 30s much more than any other decade of my life. With one final year left of my 30s it’s time to wonder what the decade ahead will hold? Whilst I’m not a ‘let’s set goals then feel like a failure when life takes you in a different direction’ person, there are some things I’d like to go into this shiny new decade with:
- More confidence. I have a habit of letting opportunities go due to lack of confidence.
- More patience. This morning I asked my partner why he had to be so irritating? He replied with why did I have to be so irritable? In fairness he was right, I was irritable and he’d done nothing wrong.
- More consideration. I have a false sense of confidence when it comes to doing slightly dangerous things. As I type this I have spent half a day in hospital having my (now bandaged) hand checked after lacerating it deeply on glass (it’s a long story with some rather grotesque pictures).
- Kindness. Always. I carried this into the last decade. There is never a reason to not be kind.
*For those who are interested, we got dressed up (I bought a new, sparkly dress that was very 90s and I wouldn’t be seen dead, or fit in now), went for a meal with friends in the local pub then went back to the barmaid’s parents house to continue the party. Needless to say, I’ve not been in charge of organising a night out since.